Republished (but edited on lame wording) from The Transgender Boards for reasons of explaining the troubles transgender people are experiencing in daily life which is not so fabulous. For all people not transgender just browsing the list and answering the questions helps in understanding the impact of the gender binary divide on the lives of transgender people. So, let’s go checking the list…
An explanation: cisgender means people who are experiencing the joy of having a physical gender in line with their mental gender. As opposend to transgenders. So the following list might help cisgender people (otherwise labelled ‘real men’ and ‘real women’) in understanding the day to day difficulties of transgender people in trying to live an ordinary undisturbed life in their preferred (mental) gender.
The Transgender Challenges Checklist (ever wondered about the challenges transgenders experience?)
There appears to be little in the way of a comprehensive challenges list. These lists are generally written in the first person relative to having the privilege. Number #1 speaks to both heterosexual and cisgender advantages. The remainder of the list focuses on cisgender advantages over transgenders in real life.
- It is unlikely that I will be ostracized by my family and friends, fired from my job, evicted from my home, given substandard medical care, suffer violent or sexual abuse, ridiculed by the media, or preached against by religious organizations simply because of my professed identity or perceived incongruent gendered behaviors or characteristics.
- I can be confident that people will not call me by a different name or use improper pronouns.
- I never suffered the indignation of “holding it”, when both functional and unoccupied public restrooms are available. In fact, I don’t need to be concerned about public facilities segregated by sex.
- If I am institutionalized, I don’t have to worry about being housed in the wrong section of a facility segregated by sex.
- I am not denied entrance to appropriate services or events that are segregated by sex.
- My childhood innocence was not interrupted with desperate prayers to a divinity begging to wake up the opposite sex.
- I never grieve about my lost childhood and adolescence because I was born the opposite sex.
- I will only experience puberty once.
- I never worry about potential lovers shifting instantly from amorous to distain and even violence because of my genitals.
- I am unlikely to be questioned about my genitals, even less likely to be touched inappropriately or asked to see them.
- It is unlikely that I would risk my health by avoiding the medical profession for fear of discovery.
- I never considered hiding my body parts by binding or tucking.
- It is unlikely that I would consider changing my voice.
- If I have a professionally recognized and diagnosed condition, I am unlikely to be excluded from medical insurance coverage.
- As a man, I am more likely to look my age, and have a body similar in size and shape to other men.
- As a man, I am more likely to be satisfied with the functionality of my genitals.
- As a man, I am more likely able to father children .
- As a woman, I am more likely to have a body similar in size and shape to other women.
- As a woman, I am unlikely to lose my hair before middle age.
- As a woman, I am more likely able to conceive and bear children.
- As a women, I don’t have to dilate the rest of my life.
- I am more likely able to achieving orgasm.
- I will likely have $50,000 or more to spend or save for retirement.
- I can’t imaging spending months and $1000s of dollars on a therapist so they can tell me something I already knew.
- If I am physically healthy, I don’t think about having a hysterectomy, a mastectomy, massive hair removal, contra hormone therapy, vocal surgery, facial reassignment surgery, or genital reassignment surgery.
- I have a better chance of reaching old age without taking my own life.
- At my funeral, it is unlikely that my family would present me crossdressed against my living wishes.
- I never worry about passing gender wise. I am oblivious to the consequences of someone failing to do so, and consequently loosing my cisgender (non transgender) advantage. In fact, I have the privilege of being completely unaware of my own cisgender advantagege.
The Membership – The Transgender Boards – September, 2005, edit by Alice – February, 2009